REPLACE FEAR WITH TRUST.
There is usually an evolutionary part of us that is trying to stimulate and guide us toward our new self, lifestyle or work, while another part of us is used to the old habits and tries to hold us back with fears or reasons not to change. These fears, which may also come from a spouse, parent, or a friend, can take over and stop the process of personal evolution, or at least slow it temporarily. The old self doesn’t really die; it becomes incorporated into the new, healthier person that we become. Any change is difficult and the more support we have the better.
My own experience has been that the biggest obstacle when wanting to listen to the body is fear. Fear of losing “control”, of falling off the “wagon” and go on a big binge, fear of eating fattening foods, or fear that if we listen to our body we will stop exercising and never go back to the gym, fear of putting on weight if we let go of our rules. We fear that if we do what our body is telling us, we will go against our goals. It sounds silly, but it is true, and I have seen it a lot. We lack trust in our body’s wisdom, intelligence and perfection.
I am a firm believer that our body was designed perfect, and to function a certain way. We are body, mind and spirit working in harmony, and we cannot separate the pieces, but we can help them work well together. However, fear is a big driving force, and will overpower your willingness to connect with your body if you let it.
Trust your body. Trust It wants to be healthy, and a healthy weight. Remember that feeling well, and being healthy is our nature. It is normal to feel well. It is not normal to feel sick, and unwell.
Know that your body wants to be healthy and be a healthy weight because that is its nature. If you care for it and give it what it needs, it will take you there.
Trusting, and loving your body is the best thing you can ever do in your life.
Sometimes, in order to trust our body, we have to Ditch the rules. This takes constant practice, because some of us as so used to judging our food, and we try so hard not to fall off the “wagon”. But give your body a chance and you will see how it takes you in the right direction.
Phrases and mantras that have worked for me:
- “Everything I eat is good, and my body takes the best from it”.
- “My processes of digestion, assimilation and elimination are perfect”.
GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION.
In order to help you a bit more in developing trust in your body and gut feeling, sometimes it is necessary to “give ourselves permission” when we live such restrictive lives and under tight rules around food and exercise.
Use the phrase:
TODAY I GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION TO…………
I GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION TO FEEL…… (Tired, hungry, upset, sad, …etc.
I GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION TO SKIP THE GYM TODAY, AND JUST STRETCH BECAUSE THAT FEELS RIGHT TODAY.
I HAD A BAD DAY TODAY! THAT’S OK, I GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION TO HAVE A BAD DAY, TOMORROW WILL BE ANOTHER DAY.
I am sure you got the point!
I can’t tell you how many times I forced myself to go to the gym when my body and all my being was screaming at me not to go, but I listened to my fears (of gaining weight, not building muscle, etc.), and my mind more than my body.
When I started listening to my body I discovered that at the level of health I was at, the more I exercised the more weight I put on! The belief of the more you exercise and the less you eat the more weight you lose is so engrained in our heads, that we try to convince our body that it has to work, but it doesn’t! it actually works against us eventually.